RECONNECT (WEEK 4)
DAY 30: SELF REFLECTION
On Day 30 of your workbook, reflect back on the last thirty days of hard work and think about what you have learned.
DAY 30 MEDITATION
Mind Strength Self Reflection
At the end of any program, its always best to take a step back and reflect on what you have learned. I’m sure this 30 day program hasn’t always been the easiest to fit in, but I thank you for your efforts. Since this program is coming to an end, I hope you take the time to analyze whether it was worth your time. If you end up coming to the conclusion that life is a little better with these changes, consider the option of keeping yourself accountable with the “extended scorecard.” This sheet, located on the introduction page of this program and at the bottom of this page, won’t have you doing the exercises all over again, but is a good way to remind yourself to keep on track. You may have to take a break for a little while, but print out the extended scorecard anyways, just in case you want to start keeping track of your habits from time to time. No need to do it everyday, but it’s amazing where a little accountability can take you.
- FACT: Research has shown that if you think about an idea and then write it down, it’s twice as likely you’ll remember that idea and it will come true. This process is called “dual coding” and is the main concept behind checklists.
- TAKEAWAY: When you write something down the brain gets the message that its important to you, thereby making it harder to forget and easier to accomplish.
DAY 30 MEDITATION
For today’s meditation, set the timer for five minutes and reflect inwardly on how you will incorporate what you have learned over the past thirty days into your daily life going forward. For instance, if you learned that you would like to spend less time in front of a screen and more time meditating, when in your day will you make that happen? Or if you really like the brain science presented in this course, what type of books do you want to read in order to learn more? Ok I think you get my point.
DAY 30 MOVEMENT
Empty Chair
So often conversations and relationships in life go unresolved. To help overcome this burden, Gestalt therapy has come up with the “empty chair” exercise. A therapist sets an empty chair in front of a client and asks them to imagine the person they would like to talk to sitting there, even if that person is now currently deceased. This then becomes a powerful way to close up old wounds and let go of past hurts and resentments. The goal is to release this information or past hurt out into the world and let it go. So for today, help yourself close a wound and write a letter to someone who you need to “talk” to. This letter should focus on a few key points: What questions would you like to ask this person? What do you wish you had said or done to them? What do you wish they had said or done to you?
- FACT: If the emotional right brain is able to communicate with the rational, linguistic left brain through language, anxiety decreases dramatically.
- TAKEAWAY: The old saying of “you gotta name it to tame it” is so true in this sense. The goal isn’t to “fix” anything but instead to “release” the information and come to a greater understanding. Once this occurs the brain won’t hold on too tightly and will release its grip.
DAY 30 MOVEMENT
For today’s action task the goal is to write a letter to someone that you “need” to talk to but haven’t had the courage yet. There is no need to send the letter if you don’t want. If the letter is sensitive and you don’t want anyone to see: burn it, tear it up and throw it away, or type it out on a computer and promptly delete it. Hopefully by the end of the last sentence, you will already be feeling better.
DAY 30
Bonus Material
Ted Talk: Our Story of Rape and Reconciliation
Check out this powerful Ted talk about forgiveness and reconciliation, as these two courageous individuals discuss the roles of the perpetrator and victim in a rape that happened 15 years ago. Their story of forgiveness is something that will stick with you for quite a while.
Ted Talk: Why Your Worst Deeds Don’t Define You
In this Ted Talk, Shaka Senghor a reformed criminal who shot and killed a man discusses how to move on and make the most out of life.
Future Reading Booklist:
Below is a list of books that influenced the philosophy and format of the Sober 30 challenge. Check them out if your interested in learning more:
1) Man’s Search for Meaning- By Victor Frankl
2)Stumbling on Happiness- By Dan Gilbert
3) Why Buddhism is True- By Robert Wright
4) Buddha’s Brain: practical neuroscience of happiness- By Rick Hanson
5) Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression- By Johann Hari
6) Happiness Hypothesis- by Jonathan Haidt
7) Never Enough: the neuroscience and experience of Addiction: Judith Grisel
8) Mindsight- By Daniel Seigel
9) Chasing the Scream- By Johann Hari
10) The Biology of Desire- By Marc Lewis
11) Behave: The biology of humans at their best and worst- By Robert Sapolsky
12) Siddhartha’s Brain: Unlocking the ancient science of enlightenment- By James Kingland
13) The Body Keeps the Score: brain, mind, body and the healing of trauma- By Bessel Van Del Kolk
Extended Score Card
If you want to continue keeping track on your habits but without going through the whole program again, the scorecard below is the best way to do it.
Maybe you take a little time off before keeping track again, but if you feel yourself slipping the extended scorecard is a great way to help get you back in line.
THANKS AGAIN!
